Pastor's Circle - Jeffrey Klick

Jeffrey Klick is the senior pastor of Hope Family Fellowship in Kansas City. He joined the Pastor's Circle to discuss what a young woman should look for in a husband. Below are the "CliffsNotes" of his segment.

What are the three things a young woman should look for in a husband?

As always, if the relationship with the Lord is not the primary thing in a young man's life, you shouldn't be getting involved with him.

Marriage is not always a bed of roses; it's not always a smooth, easy time. Two people merging their lives together can be pretty rough, and you have to have a foundation on which to build.

If we don't build on a good foundation, as Jesus said, the house is going to crash.

Most people are attracted to one another physically, and that's okay. God made it that way. But as the years go on, what you're left with is not the appearance. It's whatever maturity that man has.

So he second thing I tell my daughters is look for a guy who is teachable. If he's already arrogant and conceited and not humble at this point, he's just going to get more arrogant and conceited and not humble.

The third thing to ask is whether the man you're looking at is a kind man. Proverbs 19:22 says that what is desired in a man is kindness.

If you marry a kind man, he will be kind to you for the rest of your life. If you marry a harsh man, he's going to be harsh. If he's harsh or mean, you're not going to have a good life together

How important is his financial situation?

It depends on several factors. What people put up as standards aren't necessarily biblical.

His relationship with God, his humility, his kindness; those kind of issues are much more important to me than how much he has in the bank.

What about communication?

Extremely important. You hit on two of the biggest issues of failed marriages.

If you're able to talk, and I believe this goes back to your relationship with the Lord, then you will be able to work through the problems that are there.

There are going to be hurt feelings and things that are said the wrong way, and you have to know how to work it out.

To read more on this topic, see Jeffrey Klick's blog post here.