Jeffrey Klick is the Senior Pastor of Hope Family Fellowship in Kansas City. He joined the Pastor's Circle to discuss what a young person should look for in a spouse. Below are the "CliffsNotes" of his segment.What should a young man look for in a bride?
I just had a young man in my church who is publishing a newsletter for young men, and he asked me to write an article on that very topic. It's a very important question.How do you discern that relationship with Christ?
The first and foremost question for a young man seeking a bride, once he is in agreement with his parents that he's old enough and ready, is does she have a good relationship with the Lord?
She needs to be in love with Jesus. That's what sustains us when the difficulties come.
I think observation is the big thing. Before you get emotionally entangled with someone, observe them in the church service, during worship. Observe how they treat the authorities.
You observe these things. When you start dialoguing with her, what comes out of her mouth? A guy should be looking for things that are going to last. Does the young lady have a proper value for the Scripture? That's something she's going to build upon.
Watch how the young lady treats her family. After you say "I do," you become family. After the courtship, what's going to come out is what she is at home.
Is she a servant? Marriage takes a death to self. Is she other-centered? Is she willing to lay down her life for others? Is she involved in service? Is she kind?
You're looking to see what her character is. Do you have common interests and dreams? If one of you wants to be a missionary in a foreign country, and the other won't leave the state, that's going to be a problem.
You're entering into a lifelong partnership, where two hearts beat as one. If you marry someone who doesn't believe in following what God wants you to do, there's going to be pain. How are you going to build a relationship on that?
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